Friday, 6 December 2013

Home is where the heart is

But what if your heart is in two different places?

It's hard to describe what I'm feeling at the moment, although I am positive a lot of people will relate to this blog post.

You see, I'm not originally from where I currently am living with Chris. In fact, after spending my first 18 years loving life on the south coast, I have been moving around the Midlands since University. But does this make it easier to move to a new town/city? Of course not.

At University you are all in the same boat, you are forced together to become friends because otherwise you would all be lonely - and it works well, I've met some of my best friends from going to University.

But it's not like that when you're an adult, when you move towns for work or to live with your partner. This is the dilemma I am now facing. After living with a friend, I now live with my boyfriend - in a town where I don't know anybody, and I think it's harder because Chris grew up here, in this very town, so his life is here.

My life is all over the place, and although I love living with Chris and I wouldn't change a thing, it's hard for me to call this 'home' when my heart is also in other places - like my home town, or where my friends live. And I do really miss it, but I need to get over it! 

So, how do you make somewhere feel like home.
Live there? I do that
Buy things for the home? Yep, do that too
Join a local gym? Done
Love where you live? I think this is they key that I am sadly missing.

I'm not sure why it doesn't feel like home. In a way it does, but not 100%

Perhaps it's because I need more of a life in the Midlands, more friends and to feel a little bit more settled, but it's easier said than done when you're 22. Making friends as an adult is bloody hard.

To be continued I guess...

Sophie x

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  1. Oh I know how you feel. Sometimes my heart feels in four places, mainly in three. I grew up in East Yorkshire, went to University in Newcastle and moved to Michigan in the US two years ago, I very much left my heart in Newcastle - it's where i made some of my happiness memories and i still ache for that city. I would move back in a heart beat.

    Having my honeymoon and falling in love with Chicago throws in the fourth place to mess things up even more. I wish I could feel whole in one city, but I know that can never be, in a way it can be a good thing - having all those different experiences but it certainly is affected by knowing/not knowing people. Being 27, making friends doesn't get easier - most of them in the US are just friends/work colleagues of my husband.

    Hope your okay though x

    1. Thanks for the comment :) I'm okay, really. Just a rambling blog post; where I knew I could find some other people that had been in the same situation.

      Making friends as an adult is so hard isn't it? x


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